One of the many concerns to parents about growing up kids is – when they are in a relationship.
What would you feel when you receive the news that your lovely daughter is dating someone that is not to your liking?
Or your son is dating some kind of a tramp?
Stay cool mummies. Let us all act rationally and do not scold our children for their choices.
Here are the things that you can do if your daughter dates the wrong guy aka “the bad boy”.
5 Things to Do When Your Daughter Dates the Wrong Guy
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Chill Down
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Trust me, your ability to calmly react to the relationship status of your daughter will make a difference.
You will have strong feelings about it when your daughter dates the wrong person. Be mindful of this and decide to respond rationally anyway.
It is only possible that threats and overreactions will drive your daughter away from her family, and that is the last thing you would want to happen.
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Invite Him Over
The first thing that came to your mind would be “I want to see this boy right now!”.
You can, but do it in an appropriate way. Have your daughter invite her boyfriend to spend some time with you.
It is always a better idea to have your daughter and her boyfriend in the house rather than somewhere else with this guy that you don’t know about.
She will see how her boyfriend communicates with you and your family when he is at your place.
She will note how the adults and children in the house react to him, and this will help form her perceptions of him.
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Communicate With Your Daughter
It is important to sit down and have a talk with your daughter about her boyfriend; whether he is a decent one or a bad shot.
Make sure it doesn’t seem like an interrogation to her. You can do this by going for some mummy and daughter ‘girl’s day’ out.
Find out more about him, what she wants and what she likes about him. Also, do not forget to talk to her about your concern as well especially when it comes to dating the wrong man.
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Surround Her With Good Examples
Offer your daughter an image of what manhood and true love are intended to look like.
She sees it in how you are treating her, and the other men you are bringing into her life.
If you have a good husband, just take him as an example of a good father and treat his family and woman right.
If she is surrounded by high-quality gentlemen, your daughter will realise that she dates the wrong guy and can easily see that he is not a genuine person to stay faithful with.
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Maintain A Good Relationship With Your Daughter
Despite who your daughter dates, keeping a friendship with her is very important.
Hopefully, your discipline has been relationship-centred as she is growing up.
Our daughters need to know we love them, no matter what happens.
Even as you deal with her dating-related issues, all the points above are intended to improve your relationship.
Ultimately, even though we disapprove of the people they date, the places they go, and the choices they make, our daughters need to know that we love them, no matter what happens.
Lastly, do not worry too much about your daughter’s dating life when she is all grown up.
By that time, she would know what to choose and we, as mothers, should only pray for the best for our children.