Think about the countless moments our children turn to us, the scraped knees needing a kiss, the late-night monsters calmed by a cuddle, the endless “Why?” questions seeking reassurance.
As parents, we’re their first safety net, their world of comfort and security.
But what happens when the home itself stops being that sanctuary?
When instead of feeling safe, a child senses tension, fear and instability?
In homes trialed by domestic violence, children become silent victims, witnessing and absorbing the chaos.
Parents, overwhelmed by managing a turbulent household, may unintentionally fail to notice the toll it takes on their little ones.
The very place meant to nurture and protect becomes a source of fear.
Recent cases in the public eye, such as the legal proceedings involving well loved model and actress Zahnita Wilson and husband on charges of domestic violence, have brought attention to the hidden struggles within households.
These stories serve as a reminder of the urgent need to address domestic violence, particularly its impact on children.
The Cost of Household Violence
Domestic violence doesn’t just harm the direct victim, it leaves a ripple effect on the entire family.
For children, the experience of living in a violent household can result in emotional distress, developmental delays, and even physical harm.
Based on a report, Selangor recorded 813 domestic violence cases from January to August 2024 and this may just be the tip of the iceberg.
While these numbers are significant, experts suggest they only scratch the surface due to the cultural stigma and fear surrounding such issues.
Creating a Safe Environment for Children
As parents, it’s heartbreaking to think of our children feeling unsafe in their own homes.
If you ever sense something is amiss, here are steps to protect and support them:
- Recognise Early Signs: Sudden changes in behavior, like sudden and extreme shyness, aggression, or fearfulness, might be indicators of stress or trauma.
- Create a Safe Space for Conversation: Let your children know they can share anything with you, without fear of judgment. Sometimes, a simple “Are you okay?” can open doors.
- Seek Professional Support: Organisations like Talian Kasih (15999) and local NGOs offer counseling and resources for families in need.
A Community Responsibility
Breaking the cycle of violence requires more than individual action.
It demands a community-wide effort such as:
- Run Awareness Campaigns: Highlight how domestic violence impacts children and families, encouraging early intervention.
- Empower Schools to Act: Educators can play a pivotal role in fostering empathy and teaching conflict resolution.
- Normalise Reporting: Create safe, anonymous channels for victims or witnesses to report violence.
For A Brighter Tomorrow
Our children are our hearts, our joy, our everything.
The idea of them living in fear is unbearable.
But for many children in violent households, that is their daily reality.
As parents and as a community, we owe it to every child to fight for safer homes.
By recognising the signs, seeking help, and fostering understanding, we can create a Malaysia where every family feels supported and every child knows the warmth of a safe, loving home.
Disclaimer: The information provided in this article is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as medical advice from Motherhood. For any health-related concerns, it is advisable to consult with a qualified healthcare professional or medical practitioner.
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