To begin with, what is a toxic relationship? A toxic relationship is a relationship that causes harm to a partner with or without intention. The most serious warning signs in a toxic relationship that woman should watch out for is violence, abusive, and harassment which these should be dealt with immediately. If a relationship stops bringing you joy, and instead consistently makes you sad, angry, anxious and bitter at all times, then you are in a wrong relationship.
But why do women stay in a toxic relationship after all that the guy had put her through? Woman stays because they think that the abusive things that their partner is doing to them are a normal thing for a couple to do when fighting. You see, this is how some woman views toxic relationship and this why they stay in such a relationship.
Even worse, if you are going through a toxic relationship now and you are not doing anything to help yourself out from the relationship, then what if, in the future it happens to your daughter? You will need to save your daughter from this kind of relationship and man, do you really want to let your daughter go through what you are going through now? Of course you don’t.
Below are the FIVE MAJOR SIGNS that you should look for in your relationship now, so that you’d be a good relationship adviser to your daughter.
1) Simple disagreements turn into huge fights:
All topics that you guys talk about suddenly lead your relationship into a huge fight. For example, when you start talking about ‘how to improve our relationship’, he will jump straight into conclusion and will get the thought that he is not the best yet for you. You cannot simply talk to him for you are afraid it might turn into a huge fight, again.
2) Manipulator:
He will manipulate whatever wrong that he has done to you, to make you feel that you are the one who creates the mess first. If he becomes abusive to you, he will manipulate his character and blame it that you cause him to become abusive.
3) Hot-Headed:
You have to follow whatever he says. And if you don’t do whatever he asks you to do then he will jump straight to you and attack you with his harsh words. If he says do this, meaning you have to do what he asks you to do.
4) They simply don’t respect you:
A pattern of disrespect wears us down and creates things like anxiety and dread. It makes you feel like we have to keep our guards up or prepare for the argument or attack before it happens. We begin to dread bringing things up because we know what they are going to say. These feeling of constantly being on the defense is a sign that your partner doesn’t respect you.
5) You can’t open up to them:
You will get scared to even open about a specific topic to talk to him regarding the issue. In order for you to not create a fight, you will keep whatever problem that you are having within yourself.
So tell me will you feel okay to be in this kind of relationship? If you don’t feel okay, now think about your daughter, if she is in this kind of relationship, how would she feel? As parents, we should be the one to take care of them including their feelings. Don’t let anyone destroy your kids in the name of love. Monitor your loved ones’ relationship but do not interfere it. Tell them what they should do and what they shouldn’t. Let them learn but never let them learn in a harsh way. It is our job, parents!
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