“New Year, New Me!”. Some people may hate New Year’s resolution, some may think that it is an opportunity to make improvements, major and small, a chance to follow new aspirations and ambitions, and a fresh chapter of our life journey.
Many of us are making New Year’s resolutions in the hope of setting a good example for our children, whether it is about spending less money on fancy coffee or starting a new diet.
I personally love making New Year’s resolutions. Recently, my children have asked me, “Mummy, are your New Year’s resolutions ready?”
Funny enough, this year has been tough, especially with the COVID-19 pandemic. Truthfully, I didn’t even realise how quickly the time flew!
2020 has been a challenging year. However, as a mother, we should always strive to be better because motherhood is a learning journey.
A year ago, we were a different kind of mum, but this year we might have changed or improved. So, it is always a good idea to make a resolution to help us grow as a mother.
For most of us, the end of the year means vowing to make major and meaningful changes to our lives.
So, instead of pushing myself to do things that I don’t really want to do, I am resolving to eliminate some of the pressures that have made me feel stressed, guilty, or just plain unhappy and you should too!
Plus, we deserve a better 2021 than this year!
5 Realistic and Doable New Year’s Resolution For Mothers!
1) Stop Comparing Yourself To Influencer-Mum
What’s the quickest way to make mum feel insecure? Browsing and scrolling through Instagram or Facebook and seeing all the gorgeous, lovely, picture-perfect activities that Influencer Mums are doing which we don’t have the time to do – particularly mid-pandemic.
I inevitably struggle anytime I attempt to be that person and fail miserably. I constantly have to remind myself that there is no way that a working mother or a regular human being can do that because everybody’s capability is different.
So, stop comparing yourself to other mums! Instead of looking at Instagram or Facebook and comparing yourself to some “unrealistic” pictures, I think it is time to know your worth and appreciate yourself, Mummies.
2) More “Me” Time!
That to-do list in your head, on your calendar, or in your notebook has always been about your children or your husband.
By nature, many of us mums put ourselves at the bottom or leave ourselves entirely off, whether we serve lunch to our children and miss our own, or replace their outgrown clothes but continue to wear torn-up sweats.
When was the last time you treated yourself something nice? Maybe a new outfit, a facial at the spa or even a nice coffee?
When you look after the meals, sleep, fitness, and play of your little ones keep tabs on yourself too. Check them out then check in with yourself!
“Am I hungry, do I need a nap too? Do I need new shoes?” I bet most of the time, the answer would be YES. Stop being guilty about giving the self-love that you need. After all that you did throughout this year, you deserve it!
3) Hop-On To Your Favourite Hobbies
Writing is one of my favourite hobbies, but since I had kids, it is just a forgotten hobby. I still hesitate to devote little time to my hobbies but I should change that.
Remember, we are mothers, not a robot, so let’s get back to those hobbies this new year! Perhaps you could pick up new hobbies such as photography, baking, reading books or crafting.
Sometimes being a mother, you could lose yourself halfway in the journey but remember to do what makes you happy.
Picking up your old or new hobbies might be helpful to catch up with yourself. To make it more enjoyable, you can even invite your children or husband to try your hobbies!
4) Stop Saying “YES” To Everything!
“Hey can you help me with this? Could you do this for me?” Sounds familiar? I bet our answers are always “Sure, of course”.
Aren’t we all that kind of mothers? We all love helping people out but I am beginning to understand that Mothers can’t do anything!
Although being as busy as a stay-at-home mum at the same time, I can’t afford to function like a childless employee.
There are days when I will have to sacrifice one aspect of my life for the other. Sometimes, we have to stop pretending that we can do everything because truthfully, we can’t please everyone.
Sometimes, you need to say “NO!”
5) Spend More Time With Family
If you missed a moment with your children because you were too busy on your phone doing something or working too much, raise your hand!
For New Year’s resolution, simply resolve this by putting down your phone more and limit your working time. Yes, that can be hard but nothing beats more than creating memories with your beloved ones.
It doesn’t have to be BIG activities. A small and quality time would be sufficient as long as all of the family members feel connected with each other.
Maybe you can throw a dinner for New Year’s Eve! That would be great, am I right, Mummies?
My Last Take On New Year’s Resolution For All Mums:
Whichever New Year resolution you prefer, always keep it small and simple.
Remember, start with one and from there, mark the checklist. It is better than a million resolutions made but broken. It is always better with one resolution upheld!
And if you are just doing one thing and one thing this year, throw away your mother’s resentment and give yourself a little more love. Happy New Year!