When mummies hear the words ‘kid-free romantic getaway’, many may begin to freak out.
They will be concerned about how the kids would cope without them, who they could leave the children with, and whether the carer would be capable of handling the kids.
I myself can’t imagine leaving my children behind for several days as well.
If you’re not used to it or if it’s your first time, it’s easy to become paranoid and anxious just thinking about it.
Nevertheless, having that kid-free romantic vacation will do wonders for your relationship with your spouse.
With kids around, it’s simple for routines at home or in your relationship to grow boring and repetitive.
Everything revolves around prioritising your kids, leaving no time for you or your relationship.
Whether you like it or not, your relationship will begin to change after having children.
Therefore, you must seek out an opportunity to reignite the spark between you two.
Put that worry aside as the time has come to start planning that kid-free romantic getaway. And this is why:
Time For a Kid-Free Break
I know how exhausting motherhood and parenting can be. There are times when it can make you feel lifeless.
You’re missing out on social interactions, personal ‘me time’, partner connection, and even a taste of romance!
Of course, you’re not intentionally missing out. It’s just that being preoccupied with kids can strain other aspects of your life and relationships.
So, this is the opportunity for you and your spouse to recharge, reset and reconnect.
Make plans for things you both have always wanted to do but have been forced to put off because of the kids.
Or simply revisit the hotel where you spent your honeymoon to snuggle and enjoy each other’s company.
Rekindle the Romance
When all you and your spouse do is talk about the kids, it’s time to reignite the romantic ambiance with a private getaway.
According to Michigan State University, among other advantages of vacationing without the kids is the chance to rekindle and deepen your romantic relationship.
To get in the mood, book a honeymoon suite at a hotel of your preference.
When your love birds walk into that room, the scattered roses, scented candles, romantic gift basket, and dim-light ambiance will immediately scream romance.
While on that romantic getaway, here are some ideas you can try to rekindle passion:
- Communicate more openly about what you both want, need, and desire.
- Flirt more often and discover something you both enjoy.
- You may consider exploring intimate products.
- Make plans for a romantic dinner and be more affectionate.
Create New Memories
Of course, as a family, you have created a plethora of memories that everyone, including the children, can cherish.
However, don’t dismiss the idea of creating new memories for just the two of you.
Make plans that you couldn’t make with kids around.
This kid-free romantic getaway will be just for you to replenish your time together.
Make a detailed itinerary that includes both going out and staying in.
It can be somewhere overseas like the Maldives, Paris, or any other romantic destination. But that would require staying for at least a week or two to be worthwhile.
If you only need a quick 3- to 4-day vacation, there are plenty of options locally.
You could probably begin with this list of 10 short romantic getaways in the country:
- Villa Samadhi, Kuala Lumpur
- The Banjaran Hotsprings Retreat, Ipoh, Perak
- The Datai Langkawi, Langkawi, Kedah
- Grand Lexis Port Dickson, Negeri Sembilan
- The Orchard Wellness & Health Resort, Lubok China, Melaka
- Lexis Hibiscus Resort, Port Dickson, Negeri Sembilan
- Cabinz Ecottage Retreat, Seremban, Negeri Sembilan
- Sunway Hotel Resort & Spa (The Villas), Bandar Sunway, PJ
- Danau Daun Chalets, Kampung Janda Baik, Pahang
- Sekeping Serendah, Rawang, Selangor
Moment to Treat Yourself
This is the ideal time to pamper not only your partner but also yourself.
Decide on a getaway destination that you both have always yearned to visit.
To truly experience that child-free vacation mode, it would be better if the place is somewhere adult-only.
Make sure you have time to treat yourself, unwind, and relax. Consider booking a spa package where you can treat yourself to services like massages, facials, manicures, and pedicures.
You can also use this time to go on a shopping or food-hunting adventure with your significant other.
All that matters is that you’re engaging in the activities together and making the most of your kid-free time.
Tips for Worry-Free, Kid-Free Vacation
Even though it’s called a ‘kid-free getaway’, I’m pretty sure there will still be times when you worry about your children.
I know it’s just your maternal instinct taking over; you can’t help it.
Therefore, before you leave on your vacation, consider the following advice to lessen your anxiety:
- Plan ahead of time and communicate with your children so that both you and they know what to expect
- Place the children in the care of trusted adults, such as their grandparents (which will also be great for them to bond)
- Prepare a routine and activity schedule for kids to follow and for carers to acknowledge
- Create a communication plan so you don’t check in too frequently and kids understand their boundaries, but still, be flexible
- Stock up on food, snacks, and other useful items at the house where your children will be staying so they have enough during your absence
Well, mummies, there you have it!
Now that you know how wonderful a kid-free romantic getaway can be for you both, you just can’t wait for that time to come, right?
So, go ahead and enjoy the planning process. It’s time for your well-deserved kid-free romantic getaway!
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