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Stitches for Pleasure, Pain for Mum? OB-GYN Debunks the ‘Husband Stitch’ Myth

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Congratulations on your upcoming arrival!

Becoming a parent is a joyous journey, but it’s also one filled with physical and emotional adjustments.

While we all gush about the adorable baby, let’s be honest: childbirth can be demanding on your body.

One concern, especially for vaginal deliveries, is perineal tears or episiotomies.

Healing After Delivery

The perineum is the tissue between the vagina and anus.

During childbirth, it may tear naturally or require an episiotomy, a surgical incision, to help the baby deliver smoothly.

Stitches are typically used to repair these tears, and healing usually takes about a week or two.

It’s a sensitive area, so discomfort and tenderness are expected.

The ‘Husband Stitch’: A Misplaced Concern

You may have heard whispers about the ‘husband stitch‘, an extra stitch or two some partners request during the repair.

This practice is also called the ‘daddy stitch’ or ‘vaginal tuck’.

It is NOT medically recommended and is considered unethical, as OB-GYN on TikTok @mamadoctorjones shares her opinion:

@mamadoctorjones

“Husband Stitch??” – ObGyn Thoughts #tiktokdoctor #obgyn #pregnancy

♬ original sound – Mama Doctor Jones

Focus on Your Baby

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Remember, after childbirth, your wellbeing and recovery are paramount.

Prioritise these things:

  • Gentle healing: Listen to your body and rest as much as possible.
  • Open communication: Discuss any concerns or discomfort with your doctor and partner openly.
  • Self-care: Invest in time for yourself, even if it’s just a short bath or a peaceful read.

Rekindling Intimacy Sans ‘Husband Stitch’

Postpartum intimacy may take a backseat as you adjust to parenthood. That’s completely normal!

Here are some gentle ways to reconnect with your partner:

  • Small gestures: Start with affectionate touches, hugs, and kisses.
  • Appreciation: Express gratitude and admiration for your partner’s role in this journey.
  • Open communication: Talk about your feelings and desires honestly. Remember, communication is key!

Your journey as new parents is full of unexpected turns.

Trust your instincts, prioritise your healing, and keep communication flowing with your partner.

Together, you’ll navigate the complex world of intimacy and build a happy family on a foundation of mutual respect and understanding.


Disclaimer: The information provided in this article is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as medical advice from Motherhood. For any health-related concerns, it is advisable to consult with a qualified healthcare professional or medical practitioner.


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