Being a parent has always been a challenge. After more than two months, how has the MCO been treating you? How has it changed your parenting style? What type of parent have you become?\r\n\r\npicture credit: Syaheera Rara\r\nUndoubtedly, the pandemic doesn\u2019t help much. The school is off, the playground is an out-of-bound area, the restaurants and the malls are not the places to be. All you have is that tiny house of yours to cramp in with the whole family 24-7. After more than a month in this enforcement, it\u2019s not a surprise that many parents started to see the blessings behind the tragedy and some might wish this could end yesterday. Our patience is tested, our task multiplies and our decision is being disputed.\r\nAs parents, we definitely want the best for our children. We want to ensure their safety, both physical and emotional. Yet, some parents might find it difficult while some successfully undergo this time smoothly.\r\n\r\npicture credit: Ayu Rahim\r\nAre you on the right track? What parenting style have you adopted, with or without you realizing it? Check out the list:\r\n\r\nType of Parents\r\n1. Authoritarian Parents\r\nThe type who upholds the \u201cMy Way or the Highway\u201d mantra. You are a non-nonsense type of parent who put attention on punishment if mistakes were committed. In other words, you are a dictator's parent. Perhaps the MCO is too hard on you that leaves you no room for negotiation with the kids.\r\n\r\n2. Permissive Parents\r\nThe opposite of authoritarianism is the Permissive Parents. You do not put boundaries to your kids and you must have got confused between love endlessly and raising humans the way they should. You give in to all your children's demands, easily. You might think the MCO is the time you have to spend with them and you just let them be.\r\n\r\n3. Neglectful Parents\r\nYou are so caught up with your own world that you tend to ignore your own children. Work might be your number one priority and you take it seriously even when you are working from home during this MCO.\r\n\r\n4. Overprotective Parents\r\nSome of us just couldn\u2019t keep a sane mind about the wellbeing of our children, even when the kids are around 24-7 and got nowhere to go. Being protective is every parent\u2019s nature but being overprotective can give negative effects on our children\u2019s growth. Not letting go would mean not allowing the kids to learn anything in order to live. A definite no-no!\r\n\r\n\r\n5. Narcissistic Parents\r\nDifferent from authoritarian, a narcissistic parent will often choose to control their children with threats and emotional abuse. Narcissistic parents are non-negotiable, inflexible and lack empathy. If you tend to see this kind of behaviour, stop, ponder and seek help, if needed. Always remember kids will always be kids and we have to be the wise adult in the house.\r\n\r\n6. Polarised Parents\r\nMCO gave the opportunity for both parents to be in the house with the children at one time, for some time.Perhaps, the first two weeks were great bonding moments with the kids. As time\r\npasses, the trend is changing. While one parent wants something for the children, the other wants something else. Disagreement leads to perpetual battle which results in children manipulating the whole situation.\r\n\r\n7. Authoritative Parents\r\nThere\u2019s no surprise that school will not be reopened except for the fifth and sixth former. So parents, hold your horses! Be patient and more patient. Diana Baumrind, a psychologist, is well-known for the parenting style definition which one of the three definitions is an Authoritative Parents. This is the healthy parenting style. Authoritative parents are firm but not harsh in punishment and open for discussions. This is the most constructive style towards building a healthy family.\r\nSo which one are your parenting styles or what have you become after the lockdown?\r\nOur parenting style plays a bigger part in raising successful children. It is important for us to raise them rightfully. You might want to consider the following tips as guidelines for best parenting.\r\n\r\nTips of Good Parenting\r\n1. Role model\r\nLead by examples. Be the best role model for our children. Our children will become who we are, so be who you want them to be. Let them witness the right way to live life and may they grow up great.\r\n\r\n\r\n2. Firm but kind\r\nKids can outsmart us if we don\u2019t be careful. At some points, if the situation requires us to be firm, be firm. But always remember to kind to them. Harsh punishment doesn\u2019t work except if we want them to grow up in a fearful environment.\r\n\r\n3. Communicate\r\nChildren need to be told if they did something wrong and if they were right. Recognise their efforts and improvements. Correct them when they are wrong with patience. Tell them what\u2019s right and what\u2019s not.\r\n\r\n4. Answer them\r\nChildren ask a lot of questions. They ask because they don\u2019t know and they want to know. Don\u2019t shut them off no matter how silly the questions are. And don\u2019t ever tell lies just because they ask taboo questions. Teach them, guide them, explain to them. The best explanation they could get will always be from their parents.\r\n\r\n5. Love, love, love\r\nEvery child is different. They don\u2019t come in one-size-fits-all. As the wise one, we should learn to be the best parents for our children. Love never fails. So, love,love and love them.\r\nBeing parents is a responsibility and hardwork. It\u2019s discovering the strengths you never knew you had and dealing with fears you didn\u2019t exist. There\u2019s no Parenting 101 manual that comes with those beautiful children of yours. We won\u2019t know how the future will be, but we can always thrive for the best.