A stepfamily is one that is formed by remarrying a divorced or widowed person where children are also involved. It can be complicated to come together as a stepfamily but this might be your chance and hope to start all over again and to be in a happy and contented family.\r\n\r\nWhen you and your new partner are ready to commit into a relationship, sit down and discuss your plans with your children so that you can prepare them for any future plans, and that they can be ready for any circumstances too. Your child should be part of any future events and activities. The more your children are involved, the better things will be.\r\n\r\n\r\nIntroducing a new partner\r\nFrom your child\u2019s point of view, a new partner is still a stranger. They require time to get to know your new partner better to trust them.\r\nHere are 3 tips that you can avoid and would be helpful to you if you just become a part of a stepfamily\r\n1. Assume your position\r\nChildren under the age of 5 or 6 may be more willing to accept a stepparent into the family, but children above the age of 7 and young adults may not, and it can be quite a challenge.\r\n\r\nSo, it is best for new stepparents to start slow. You may have won your new spouse\u2019s heart, but you may need to put in effort to earn the love and respect from your new stepchildren.\r\n\r\n\r\n2. Taking the place of the mother or father\r\nLike what I said earlier, it is impossible to replace the position of your stepchild's biological mother or father\u2019s place. You should never attempt to replace. You have to respect that child\u2019s love for their parent. This is the same when it comes to calling you, mom or dad.\r\n3. Never get involved in discussions\r\nOf course, it can be quite tempting to be in a discussion with your partner and his or her ex, but please don\u2019t. The ex might feel attacked or ganged up if you are involved. If you have any comments, do it privately with your spouse and let him or her do the talking. The same goes for getting involved in your stepchild\u2019s arguments with his or her parent.\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nMy advice to you is to take things slowly. Everyone needs time to adjust. Remember that a new partner can never replace the biological parent, but you can always be extra support for that child. As you and your family gradually grow together, you will slowly see a happier and brighter future together.\r\n\r\nParents let us know what you think about this article or share your story below. To find more parenting advises, and products head over to\u00a0Motherhood.com.my.