Family discipline is a central part of family life where it focuses on teaching children how to behave and about how their behaviours will bring about various consequences. Distinct types of family discipline will yield different kinds of relationships between parents and children.\r\n\r\nDisciplining children must start from the earliest stages of a child\u2019s development in order to help them comprehend what is right or wrong. This should be followed by the accepted values and normal behaviours within the family as well as mainstream society. Yet, there will be many obstacles in the process of family discipline, since setting limits can elicit unexpected reactions from children.\r\n\r\nIn some cases, parents are prone to developing wrong techniques in disciplining their kids. They could restrict kids by frequently saying \u201cno\u201d or saying \u201cno\u201d in inappropriate situations or, they may set no limits at all.\r\nSaying \u2018No\u2019 Too Many Times\r\nAccording to a study by the University of California, Los Angeles (UCLA), it was found that the average one-year-old child hears the word \u201cno\u201d more than 400 times a day. To some degree, parents who set frequent limits are suggested to reduce saying \u201cno\u201d to their children. It is believed that people who hear \u201cno\u201d too many times start to produce emotional reaction rather than practical or disciplined reaction.\r\nNot Saying \u2018No\u2019 At All \r\nOn the other hand, what about parents who are reluctant to set limits due to feeling guilty about disappointing their children? Such parents need to learn more about the concept of positive discipline which involves a combination of warmth and limits. Positive discipline normally helps children understand why some behaviours are acceptable and some are unacceptable. Afterwards, parents can proceed by identifying effective ways to say \u201cno\u201d in proper circumstances. Here are some alternatives where parents can say \u201cno\u201d.\r\n\r\n\r\n1. Set new limits\r\nTo some extent, parents will not give up on taking responsibility for raising their children. Parents could script new limits with their authoritative presence by picking just one limit to start with. For instance, maybe your her smartphone overnight everyday and you might begin by letting her know that from now on, she can only use her smartphone for a few hours daily. Furthermore, when parents set reasonable limits to guide their children\u2019s behaviour, the effects are likely to be positive.\r\n2. Saying \u2018No\u2019 When In A Hazardous Situation\r\nWhen it comes to children\u2019s actions that are against publicly-accepted values or those that might elicit harmful results, parents need to prevent them by saying \u201cno\u201d followed by proper guidance and explanation. Indeed, children will be led to think ahead about the consequences of their behaviour.For example, when your son wants to play with a sharp object, it\u2019s time for you so say \u201cno\u201d, and then substitute it with a safer object instead.\r\n3. Not Limiting Kids In A Need\r\nAs children growing up, they will have a list of wants that they will beg their parents to have. In this case, parents need to say \u201cno\u201d when the desire is unnecessary, instead of letting them have it. However, parents must not say \u201cno\u201d to the children\u2019s primary needs. This parenting action will definitely help children develop an understanding within themselves that when they like something, they will not always get it.\r\n\r\n\r\n4. Saying \u2018No\u2019 Consistently With The Consequences\r\nParents need to persist in saying \u201cno\u201d to their kids by explaining the consequences consistently. This form of teaching will help children to strengthen their behaviours by discouraging inappropriate deeds. Consistency is very important in teaching children how to behave appropriately.\r\n\r\nAt the end of the day, parents\u2019 responsibility is to set limits, but not to control all of their children\u2019s deeds. A number of researches have shown that the right parenting style is most essential for children\u2019s proper upbringing. When the kids have grown up, it will be one of their basic understandings when they live on their own, because they will have been embedded with the right values and normal behaviours since their early age. Hence, do not hesitate to say \u201cno\u201d when it is necessary to redirect them.