At 10 years old, your child would have reached yet another milestone in their young lives; they would have hit their first double-digit number in their age and feel more "grown-up". Naturally, they will be more independent, able to to do a lot of things by themselves and ready to step onto the threshold of becoming young adults. In Primary 4 now, they would have advanced academically in school and are now able to read, write, count and articulate their thoughts in conversation. But what about the other life skills such as self-awareness, responsibility, character and self-sufficiency \u2500 things that are necessary to take on the real world when they grow up? Here are 10 skills your child should have by the time they are 10 years old. 10 skills your child should have by the time they are 10 1. They know how to bathe, brush their teeth, groom and dress themselves. By age 10, they are no longer babies needing mummy to brush their teeth, bathe and put on their clothes for them. They should know by this age when they should brush their teeth, wash their hair, bathe and pick out clothes that are colour-matched and appropriate for the occasion. If they are going for their art class or piano lessons, what should they be wearing? If they are visiting Aunty Mei to celebrate her birthday at a restaurant or going for tuition or for football in the field outside, what are the clothes that would be most appropriate? Mummy shouldn't have to pick their clothes out for them. Let them make their own decisions. At 10, this should be completely manageable. 2. They know the SOP for keeping COVID-19 at bay, especially while away from home. In the age of the Coronavirus, they should know why it is necessary to practice good hygiene and wash their hands often with soap and water or use a sanitizer often. They also must know why and when they should wear a face mask, why they must keep a distance from their classmates and not share food and personal items when in school, and be responsible enough to remember to carry out the MOE's Standard Operating Procedures (SOP) diligently, especially when mum is not there to remind them. 3. They know how to be safe and sensible online. It\u2019s not just about exploring the World Wide Web but the deluge of instant messaging and social networking apps that make the internet such a fascinating, fun, educational, confusing, dark and dangerous place for kids. Sure, you can put in parental restrictions, cyberbullying blocks, inappropriate content filtering, or even a Virtual Private Network (VPN) to protect your whole family's privacy. But no matter how many of these controls you put in, you can\u2019t block everything and you can\u2019t monitor his online activities all the time, especially when all his friends are already on TikTok, Snapchat, WeChat, Instagram, Facebook, Messenger, Skype, WhatsApp, Telegram\u2026you name it. On top of that, there\u2019s also the rise of online scams, paedophile and gambling sites that you may not even be aware of to block off. End word: You can\u2019t block them all! The best way to protect children online is not by breathing down their neck every time they go online, but by giving them the power of knowledge. Have you heard of this saying? Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime. It\u2019s the same concept here. Teach him how to be safe online by focusing on critical thinking skills, discernment, wisdom, values and ethics. Ask your 10-year-old: Is this right or wrong? Should you share this personal picture or this private information with someone you don\u2019t know? How do you spot a dubious profile? Should you be visiting this site? By encouraging your child to figure out the answers themselves, you would empower him with the knowledge to make the internet a safe and positive place of learning, and not one of the cyber risks where he could fall prey to. 4. They have a sense of direction and know how to get home. Your child may get driven to and from school by a school bus, or you drive them to Taekwondo or ballet class but get them to navigate your drive to these frequented locations or around the neighbourhood so that they observe their surroundings and have a sense of direction. In an emergency, they won\u2019t get lost. It\u2019s also a good idea to have them follow directions on the phone or give their approximate location by describing the landmarks nearby. (Aside from getting lost on the road, lots of children also get lost in shopping complexes and carnivals). Having a phone and knowing how to give you their location accurately will save everyone a lot of panic and tears). 5. They know how to reach you For their safety, it is important your child has his home address, the house phone number and both parents\u2019 mobile phone numbers memorised. One more thing that\u2019s often overlooked \u2500 he should also know your name and his Dad\u2019s name. In an emergency, if the authorities such as the hospital or the police were to ask: \u201cWhat is your mother\u2019s name?\u201d, you don\u2019t want him answering: \u201cMummy\u201d, or \u201cWhat is your father\u2019s name?\u201d: \u201cDaddy\u201d. 6. They know how to react to an emergency As a 10-year-old, your child should have enough presence of mind and some first aid skills to respond to minor accidents and even real emergencies. Minor Emergency \tCut Finger: Run wound under cold tap water, or apply pressure to stop bleeding, put on a plaster. \tBurn or Scald: Run burnt area under cool running water for 20 minutes. Do not use ice. Cover burnt area with loose plastic covering such as clingfilm. \tBruise and Swelling: Ice the bruise for 20 minutes \tScraped Knee: Wash the scrape with water, remove debris, apply antibiotic ointment, then bandage it. \tNosebleed: Sit upright, lean forward, pinch the nose, press towards face and hold this position for 10 to 15 minutes. \tClothes on Fire: Stop, drop and roll. Major Emergency \tCall 999 (from landline). This emergency hotline connects to the Police, Fire & Rescue (Bomba), and Ambulance service. \tCall 112 (from mobile phone): This number will be redirected to 999. 7. By 10, they should have time-management and organizational skills. By age 10, they should how to organize their own schedules and manage their time around homework, online classes, meals, sports, extra-curricular activities, enrichment classes, hobbies, playdates and household chores. Yes, they should also be helping you with the housework by this age, such as cleaning their own room or even helping to prepare meals and wash dishes. Regardless of whether they are a boy or a girl, they are old enough to be helping you out with house chores, fix themselves a snack to feed themselves, or maybe even cook rice and other light meals. You could help them get organized by setting up a schedule or timetable for them to follow. 8. They should know how to Problem-Solve. One of the most important things on raising confident, resilient, and independent children is to stop running to \u201csave\u201d them from every problem they run into in life. Barring huge issues that need parental step-in, let them tackle challenges on their own. As \u201cgrowing up kids earning their independence\u201d, they shouldn\u2019t need to run to mummy to solve every single challenge they are confronted with. When children learn problem-solving skills, they learn to take on challenges without fear and ultimately become happier, more resilient, more confident, and more independent individuals. They also learn to be creative, resourceful and develop patience at the same time \u2500 things that will stand them in good stead later in life. 9. They know how to handle money and get the correct change. Malaysia is still very much a cash-based economy. Most of our shops and supermarkets run on cash transactions and definitely, all of our stalls, truck food and coffee shops are cash-based. Your child\u2019s school canteen is cash-based as are vending machines. As a growing child just beginning to learn to move about in the adult world, he needs to learn how to recognize the different-coloured bills, the different coins and their value and make purchases using cash. If he wants to buy an ice-cream from the ice-cream man and the cone costs RM2.50, would he know how much he should get back if he hands over a RM5.00 note? If he wants to buy a chocolate bar from the grocery shop, how much should he get back from RM10.00 if the chocolate costs RM5.90? To help him learn, you could run some play-transactions with him and hone up his mental arithmetic at the same time. 10. They must have some financial literacy and learn how to save. Children should learn how money works from a young age. Tell them how Mummy and Daddy earn money to enable both of you to buy food, and toys for them. However, not all of the money earned should be spent straight away as there is this thing called budgeting and putting aside some of the money for future use. At age 10, they may not understand the big concepts of needing money for their university education or buying their own car but at their stage in childhood, if there is something they really, really want but cannot afford to buy straight away, they can learn to save up their own money to buy it. This gives them an immediate sense of why they need to save. By giving them this responsibility to take charge of their own finances, children learn the basic tenets of saving and acquire a sense of achievement in doing so. By age 10, they should already be actively saving. \u00a0You can open a savings account for them at any bank, then show them how to log in to view their monthly statements so that they can see and feel proud of the money they have \u201cgrown\u201d all by themselves. For more tips and guidance on older children, visit Motherhood Story.