When Is the Right Time for Your Child’s First Smartphone? - June 2025

A couple of weeks ago, my five-year-old came home from a movie night with his friends, his face lit up with excitement and curiosity. 'Mummy', he began, scrunching up his nose and frowning trying to put his words and thoughts together, 'Did you know my school friend has a phone? He is a little bit younger than me, so when will I get one?' Now, as a parent of two, one about to turn six and the other just two, this isn’t the first time I’ve been confronted with questions about technology. I mean, it’s 2024, and screens are pretty much everywhere. But hearing it from my eldest made it feel suddenly real. The prospect of him owning a phone sent me spiralling into a rabbit hole of parental dilemmas: Is six too young? What about emergencies? What if he’s left out because everyone else in his class has one? It’s a lot, isn’t it? In fact, a lot of conversations I've had with fellow parents recently have been about the right amount of exposure our children should have to technology and everything it entails. So, since no stone will be left unturned in our journey through motherhood, let’s unpack this together, parent-to-parent. And try to make sense of when and how to introduce our little ones to the world of smart devices. When Is the Right Age? If you’re looking for a definitive answer, you’re out of luck. There’s no one size fits all when it comes to parenting, let alone technology. Even tech titans have wrestled with these questions. Did you know Bill Gates didn’t allow his kids to have mobile phones until they turned 14? He believed delaying their exposure to smart devices gave them time to focus on other important aspects of childhood. Similarly, Steve Jobs was known for limiting his kids’ screen time. And yet, the reality today is different. According to a study by Common Sense Media, 53% of children in the United States own a smartphone by the time they’re 11, and over a third have one by age 12. These numbers are expected to trend even younger in the coming years. For younger children, tablets can be a good first step into the tech world. They’re more controlled with limited functionality compared to smartphones, and can be used under strict supervision. My almost six-year-old, for instance, has a tablet we use together to explore educational apps and storybooks - emphasis on together because, let’s face it, the temptation for children to swipe over to YouTube is real. But here’s the kicker: readiness isn’t just about age. It’s about maturity, responsibility, and how much your child understands about boundaries. For example, does your child already grasp the concept of rules - like not eating too many sweets before dinner (okay, we’re still working on that one)? If so, they might be ready for a trial run with technology. Smart Rules for Smart Devices When we finally decide to hand over that shiny gadget, it’s not just about setting a passcode and hoping for the best. Setting clear rules and boundaries is key. For instance, when my eldest does eventually get his emergency phone (probably not before his next birthday, no matter how much he bargains), there’ll be some non-negotiables such as: Screen-Free Zones: No phones at the dinner table or during bedtime. This maintains family bonding time and encourages better sleep habits. Time Limits: Whether it’s gaming, chatting, or watching Transformers, too much screen time can overwhelm little minds. Apps like Screen Time for Apple or Google Family Link for Android are great tools to monitor and set daily limits. Open Conversations: I’ve already started talking to my eldest about the potential problems like sharing personal information online in ways he can understand. Benefits of Introducing Technology Okay, now that I’ve played the police parent card, let’s flip the coin. We know that technology isn’t the enemy and introducing it in a controlled way can actually benefit our kids. In fact, with technology is how I am here reaching out to thousands of parents within the space of my own home watching over my boys. First, there’s the obvious: communication. A phone can provide peace of mind, especially when they start venturing out for extracurricular activities or playdates. Knowing my son could call me if he feels uneasy? I would really appreciate that. Then, there’s the educational aspect. I’ve seen first-hand how interactive learning apps make my eldest light up when he figures out a tricky crossword problem or learns a fun fact about dinosaurs. And let’s not forget digital literacy. In today’s world, being tech-savvy is almost as important as learning to read or write. Peer Pressure Remember when we were kids, and everyone just had to have the coolest pencil case or that one pair of shoes? Well, it’s the same with gadgets now. As much as we want to raise resilient, non-conforming little humans, the reality is that feeling left out can affect their confidence. That’s why I’m leaning towards starting small. A basic phone for emergencies feels like a good compromise for my son when he reaches that milestone. That way, he’s not entirely out of the loop but we’re still keeping things age-appropriate. Finding Balance As parents, we’re constantly being pulled in multiple directions. We want to shield our kids from the world but also prepare them for it. Introducing smart devices is just another balancing act. We want our children to be resilient; to understand that a little pressure like figuring out a school project deadline or learning to share can help them grow. But we also want them to feel happy, confident, and most importantly, secure. While navigating through this topic of technology, I'm determined to find the sweet spot where technology becomes a tool for them to grow and explore the vast world around them. A way to connect, learn and grow without losing sight of what matters most: real-world relationships, creativity, and family time. So, will my soon-to-be six-year-old (as he likes to call himself) get a phone tomorrow? Probably not. But when the time does come, we’ll step into this new chapter with open communication, clear boundaries, and a whole lot of learning along the way. Because at the end of the day, parenting isn’t about getting it perfect. It’s about growing, together - finding the balance between what works for each family dynamics and each family member. What about you, my fellow mummies? When will you introduce technology to your precious children? Disclaimer: The information provided in this article is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as medical advice from Motherhood. 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